My Son had always had noticeable differences in behaviour since birth, but became more noticeable from age 2 years. His first few years at school were mostly unproblematic, bar a few niggles which we worked on.

Moving from Ks1 to Ks2 is where the problems really began. He struggled making friends, struggled with the large class size, couldn’t concentrate and retain verbal information, struggled with the change in style of learning. It began with teachers declaring he was an “under achiever” and didn’t concentrate or listen enough.

He slowly became withdrawn, stopped talking, noticed by his grandparents mostly (preferring to grunt), he was always totally exhausted after school and would hide under blankets and hoods as soon as possible to shut out the world. Time went on and things got worse. School put measures in place to help but would withdraw the help immediately when an improvement was seen!

We waited year after year to meet the SENCO but it was always deemed what they were doing should be enough! By the end of year 5, he developed panic attacks, would be physically sick while at school, wouldnt eat would refuse to attend and when he did teachers would restrain him for me to leave, he would say he “didnt feel safe”.

He was isolated in the library during playtime as being outside was too much, isolated having his lunch on his own as he couldn’t cope with the smells of the food hall and noise that went with it. And still no help from the SENCO. I was told during this time that applying for an EHCP “would be a waste of time”, He began part-time schooling, but after 3 weeks was told by the head teacher he had to come back full time or try a different school.

At this point, we decided for both his mental and physical health, that we would home educate, any school at this stage was just to trumatic for him. We are still dealing with his trauma from the years his needs were not met, its been 3 years since leaving.

He sees a therapist once a week who helps him cope with the anxiety and panic attacks he still suffers with. He now has a confirmed diagnosis of ADHD and ASD. He is thriving at home, has friends who understand him, and his needs are paramount in all he does both educationaly and in leisurely, but it makes me so sad that in the school environment his individual needs were so dismissed.